Some things to consider: Do you need the other person to make you laugh or simply have a sense of humor in general? How much of a priority is it? How much of it is based on laughing at the same things? If you’re a serious type or less light-hearted, maybe humor is a nice to have, not a must have. Are you fine either way or is it a priority for you? 

The value some place on their partner having a sense of humor is often a dealbreaker: People who value laughter or sense of humor in a relationship often rate it as “Important” or a “Must Have” Critical Compatibility on the 21traits.com quiz. This is a trait that typically travels together, meaning those who seek it often possess it.

On the scale below, assess where you need your partner to be. As with all 21 traits, this determination works even better when you’re self-aware enough to know where you lie on the scale. In this case, this means knowing what kind or degree of a sense of humor you bring to the table.

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Some people are so giving that they need to be with a taker. The opposite is also true.

We’re not passing judgment here; we’re strictly helping you assess your Critical Compatibilities for the long run. This has nothing to do with morals, everything to do with priorities.

It’s possible for both people in a relationship to be givers but not for both to be takers. Think about that for a moment. Then think about what you truly need and what you truly offer.

As with all 21 traits, there are no absolutes. In fact, many of us need to strike a balance of giving and taking, both as a giver and taker. There’s a good chance that describes you.

Moreover, people’s needs can change; compatibility and priorities are dynamic. That’s why the expression “we just grew apart” is a common refrain.

On the scale below, assess where you need your partner to be. As with all 21 traits, this assessment works best when you’re self-aware and consider where you yourself fall in the first place.

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Before you decide, consider this trait is far more dimensional than it seems. It’s not just about how clearly or frequently someone communicates with us; it’s also about tone, empathy, control, diplomacy, timing, and more.

Rather than evaluate every variation, we tend to determine what works for us intuitively without overthinking; we seem to just vibe with someone or not. That doesn’t mean it isn’t important to know what you need from your partner, how you yourself communicate, and whether it matters if you and your partner have different styles.

Like many of the 21 traits, this one generally needs to line up but every couple has their own way of communicating; there are infinite nuances and subtleties in this area that can allow for a great relationship even if each person has a different style or needs. Given the right motivation, people can adjust and compromise; it’s entirely possible for a couple to figure out their own way of communicating.

Just because someone’s quiet or reserved doesn’t mean they’re not a great communicator.

There are so many variations in how people relate to and inform each other that it’s best to allow the other person’s style to become apparent over time. No judgments, no limits. After a period of time, it’ll be clear: You communicate in a way that works or you do not.

Rate where you’d place yourself on the scale below as to how important communication is to you in a relationship. Then consider where your partner falls.

Decide how much you value communication, how well you and your partner communicate, and ultimately if your styles are compatible. If it’s working for you, great. If not, consider if it’s something you can work on together.

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If one of you is affectionate and the other is not, odds are low the relationship will stand the test of time. In love language terms, if one person’s primary is physical and the other person is not inclined that way, they’ll likely lead a life of frustration that could lead to indiscretion. Better not to invest in that relationship in the first place.

Intimacy, however a couple defines it, is the ultimate form of affection and generally must line up 100%. An exception is when one person doesn’t mind being touched but doesn’t reciprocate physically or with the same degree of warmth or frequency, yet both are ok with it. It’s a variation that the couple defines; whatever works for them is their business.

For most affectionate people, there’s no substitute for occasional to frequent casual touching, never mind getting twisted up in the sheets. And if words or deeds are how you express affection, that’s perfectly fine; here again, it’s how the couple defines it.

If we take affection to mean demonstrative touching, however subtle or obvious, it’s a trait that typically both people seek and offer.

Without overthinking, rate where you’d place yourself on the scale below as to how much affection you need in a relationship. Then consider where your partner falls.                                                                                   

Affection is one of the 21 traits that should be in alignment. Too far apart and you may have a problem. On or close and the odds of an LTR are in your favor.

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In other words: How much space do you need?

Some people prefer relationships with a lot of communication and time together. Some prefer the opposite. Others lean toward a balance that’s hard to describe but they know what it is and it works for them.

Whether it’s behavioral (dictated by personality and disposition) or situational (driven by circumstances or proximity) time together is a Critical Compatibility that you and your partner should align on: How much time and space do you need together and apart?

Some things are hard to put in words. Such is the case for chemistry in the first place and independence or relationship space which follow soon after.

To help rate your need for space, plot where you think you are on the continuum below. This will help you visualize and understand with far more precision than words alone.

It’s important to consider your rating in the context of your partner’s rating. For the relationship to work, you both need to fall in the same general area, adjacent if not the same. The numbers are a guide; you can mark yourself anywhere along the scale.

Keep in mind there’s a difference between a person’s ongoing need for space and times when they just need to settle in or get away for a while. We all need to allow for that kind of space.

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